“I’ve started dating again. When is the right time to talk about my double mastectomy, without feeling like I need to ‘reveal’ everything on a first date?”
Cancer nurse Beth says...
Every person deals with experiences like this in slightly different ways and what may be right for one person may not be right for another. Some people have chosen to be very upfront and write this into their dating profile so that it is ‘out there’ and reduces the risk of a rejection later but it is about what feels right. Other people may choose to get to know someone over a period of several dates before they discuss what they have been through and there is no right or wrong way as it is a very individual thing.
Sex toy expert Renee says...
You don’t need to reveal anything until you are ready and if it seems like sex is on the cards. You might need to guide them on where and how to touch, so it feels good for you. It’s a good idea to share potential triggers or agree on a safeword if you find yourself uncomfortable being touched. Remember, they’ll want you to have the best experience possible, so anything that helps create a safe, sexy environment for you both should be welcomed.
